Greetings from the 10th or 11th hour of this month! I initially wanted this series to be in the middle of each month but a fortnight of unexpected traveling threw off my blogging schedule a bit! For newer friends, this is a series where I ask fellow bloggers to share their insights while I share mine. Blogging is still a relatively new art form with no rights or wrongs (...within reason) and it's a largely collaborative field, so why not dedicate a day a month to discuss the ins and outs?
This month I want to talk schedules, personal preferences, and lines in the sand. My specific questions are:
What's your blogging style? Do you plan out a blogging schedule? Take photos in advance or is it 100% a daily and in real life thing? Or both? Why do you do it that way? Are there topics that you shun away from about your personal life or other details that may or may not relate to your blogging genre? What made you decide to be open or private with such things?
My personal answer is that I started as an in real time blogger. Sometimes I would use photos from the past in posts if I was covering something comprehensive like a whole brand of clothing, but most of my Instagram photos and a large portion of my blogging photos were brand spankin' new if not actually from that day. I've ceased doing this though, which initially bummed me out as I wanted to be relatable and accessible and showcase off days and not have everything be so prim and polished. I got away with this method until about Halloween, when we started having shorter days and a lot of snow and wind. Even though I could, in theory, bring back this method for the summer, Colorado is super exhausting weather wise. It rains and hails out of nowhere and is super bright during the day (we're a mile closer to the sun), making getting the right exposure that much more difficult. Despite how much I love to dress up, I try to live my life as low maintenance as possible and it's proven to be easier to a few times a month take some photos in advance and post them in the future. It makes the quality of blogging not only better, but I can enjoy wearing whatever makes sense for any given day weather wise without feeling sad that I hadn't shown off a certain brand in a while. It's easy to wear a dress in photos for 10 minutes that's inappropriate seasonally to wear otherwise, ya know? That said, sometimes I have a true to life #ootd on Instagram! I try to set a blogging schedule, but it's usually just a rough draft for organizational purpose and half of it gets shifted around for various reasons.
I have very clear lines in the sand that after over a year of blogging I'm very glad I set up for myself. I showcase people that I love in my life, but I never specifically highlight a significant other. So much of my life, both on this blog as well as other projects, exists on the Internet. I haven't even been in a Facebook relationship in many relationships, so sharing my romantic life never felt right to me in the blogosphere. If it makes sense to reference something I've learned from a past relationship, I'll (without naming names) write about my romantic past, but anything current is 100% off limits. Every male on this blog that gets featured gets referred to as a friend, a loved one, or one of my favorite people. If they are more than that, nobody who doesn't know me in real life knows that. No hiding anyone, but no identifying either. I like having something just for me, and I like that if things were to ever go down south for me romantically I would never have a platform to work out my feelings publicly haha. Though I somewhat "hide in plain sight" with this next point, I also keep my political and religious thoughts out of here, partially because they do not have a place on here. Plus I already have an outlet for these things elsewhere. Besides, so many different viewpoints come across this blog. Why ruffle feathers?
My final lines are that I'm vague about work and while I may mention I'm going out of town or have a bunch of fun events coming up, I never mention specifics or exact dates prior to a trip or event. That feels like it's just a safer thing to do, all around. When you put your life out there so many things cease to be in your control. I have an iPhone that has a terrible habit of using one of my emails to push through text messages. One time someone I barely knew saw my email pop through instead of my number or given name in their contacts, realized my name is actually Lauren Blair and not just Lauren (a way more searchable name as opposed to just Lauren...which is why I introduce myself as only that more often than not), found my Twitter and blog by searching my name and used it to make some judgements about me. This was not only a violation that made me somewhat dislike this person, but what's really crazy about this is that this person was actually honest about it! How many people have done this without being transparent? Why put out your vacation dates and destination in advance, or saying what shows you're going to? You don't know who's tracking your moves, ladies and gentleman...
So, what are your thoughts? Do any of my personal preferences hit home for y'all or do you have a completely different take on things? Is there something related that you feel strongly about that I didn't cover? Please comment below and you are encouraged to reply to other people's comments to get a discussion going. Please keep it polite though; everyone is doing what's right for their blog and online persona so let's respect that!
Last month's question: To have a Facebook account for your blog or not
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